Speak for yourself! If that's all you got out of anything I said, then you weren't listening. And it's a bit rich when you hadn't done any better.

I understand the difficulty of your position, why do you think I was hesitant to see you put in it? But once that was out, well, there was nothing to be done. That understanding isn't a courtesy I have been mutually extended.

Would you have preferred I treated you as incapable of it? Because encouraging you in a path that ignores the reality of our situation would have been nothing short of patronizing, and I think that would have been worse.